“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart.”

C. JoyBell C.

It’s 2:34 am

That won’t be the time this is posted, but it’s my absolute favourite time to write because you feel like you are the only one in the world with only the company of your thoughts.

Sometimes I don’t think people truly value the profound silent power of an unspoken connection with another human being…or should I say when a connection finds you? The effect of which cannot be measured, controlled or contained it just is. The subtle beauty is that once you have experienced a genuine, authentic, organic, unexplainable connection the influence of that will leave an imprint that moves beyond time, situation or circumstance.

I often wonder what would have happened if my mother decided not to go out on the evening she met my absentee father. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if my guilt ridden father decided to stay in America instead of travelling to the U.K. and stayed home…but factors beyond my control bought these two people together.

I don’t know if it was the hand of God, accidental luck or random chance, but something drew these people together resulting in me…and I am forever in debt to all those random acts of chance that got me here.

I am fortunate enough to have met (and continue to meet) some amazing people and some of these characters have made a mark on my soul that I will carry with me forever. The elegant charm of the situation is that some people are aware of the impact they have made and others have no idea that the energy they carry improves the quality of my life experience.

It’s almost too easy to talk about the connection of parents, siblings, extended family or children so for the remainder of this entry I’m going to exclude anyone who is biologically connected to me…because the kinship you develop with an imperfect stranger intrigues me more.

I’m talking about an initial spark of acquaintance that turns into the flames of a meaningful association. Let’s remember this isn’t a Hollywood movie; it doesn’t have to be an overwhelming deep connection that makes you weep when you look up at the night sky or a connection that lasts an eternity. In my case some of the people that I speak of are totally unaware that I appreciate them, and how they have influenced my life for the better.

But we have to be realistic; as people grow, change, age and evolve it is inevitable that those bonds may break; as you may not have the same friends that you did five years ago or you naturally require something different in the next romantic endeavour you enter…change is part of the process.

Which is why against that backdrop it’s pretty special to have made a lasting connection at all. Being able to bask in the glow of that smile, listening to the heartbeat of shared conversation and cultivating a shared body of experience that will fill your soul forever.

I know, sounds a little corny right? Yet it doesn’t change the fact that I believe a true connection is based on the acceptance of another soul; appreciation of who they really are and who they will become even if that means they eventually move out of your life.

I value these people, because they have effortlessly touched my life without even trying…

Does it get any better than that?

Until next time